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February Newsletter

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January seemed to roar past. We matched up mums from Belsize Park to New Malden and from Kensington to Barnes. We also created two bilingual groups, one of Italian mammas and one of French mamans - magnifique!  And we have lined up some new partnerships for you all - see below for more on this.

We had some very happy members this past month who reviewed the Home Spa London massage treatments, three other lucky ladies who won a fabulous Almondella box and also some happy mums who sent us lovely testimonials on their matches - it really is so good to know the matching system works - thank you.  And a huge thanks to those of you who sent me a baby photo or a group photo, I really was so touched to receive those.

We are still working hard on finding matches for all of our members, and to help with this we have a wonderful new team member who will be helping with our marketing efforts – so welcome, Natalia :)  
And as well as our members doing the reviewing (watch our FB page for more opportunities like this to come), we were delighted when super-blogger Franglaise Mummy agreed to be a guinea pig and try out our service for herself - you can read her review here.

So what's next?  Well, we will be introducing more groups obviously, and we are also working with a great network of Clapham-based businesses on the Clapham Pregnancy and Baby Show.  If you are in the area, do come along on Saturday 21st March.  We are also looking forward to working with Kensington Mums on an event for mums-to-be in that area later in the year.

 
 

Read Franglaise Mummy's review in full here

Cheap, us?!

Well that is how Franglaise mummy described our premium service in her glowing review – but we prefer to think of ourselves as offering exceptional value for money.  As well as being matched up with a group of mum-friends, for a one-off cost of between £20 and £50 (depending on group size), our members also have access to freebies, offers and discounts worth in excess of a whopping £2,000! 

 
 

Full details and discount codes are in our members' area

New discounts & benefits 

Last month we also set up some more partnerships, so that you can all benefit from your membership of Match Up Mums even before you get matched or well after you have started meeting up with your Match Up Mums friends. As always, the details are in the members’ area – along with discounts on maternity wear, night nannies, weaning sessions, gyms and personal training, nursery design, babysitting – and more! 
 
We now have a 20% discount code exclusively for you on some really lovely natural skincare products for bumps and babies, from Nom Nom.  Fab name, eh? I think I would buy them based on that alone, but having tried some I can tell you the products are great too.  See our members' area for the discount code.
 
We also have a discount from a great new idea from the Parent Practice, who have been helping parents since 2004 to find ways to have happier, calmer kids and a more peaceful and rewarding family life.  The Parent Practice have recently launched online courses which means parents all over the country (and beyond!) can access their Positive Parenting Academy, and Match Up Mums members can now get a 10% discount on these.  I really believe that a happy mum makes a happy family and that is why setting up local support networks is so important to me – but sometimes you might find you need a bit more in the way of expertise to make a positive change for your family, and that is where the Parent Practice comes in. 
 
Melissa from the Parent Practice has kindly written a guest post that I hope anyone expecting, planning, or even vaguely considering a second baby will find useful in helping you to prepare your child for their new sibling. Next month we have planned some guest posts on oils that are safe to use on your baby's skin, and how Sophrology (no I had never heard of it until recently either) can help with sleep deprivation (I'm sold!).  

Please keep recommending us to any mums-to-be or new mums that you know, and keep the feedback coming.  Until next month, we thank you for your continued support and wish you all the very best.

Love,
Megan x

 
 

Is a baby a bundle of joy for the whole family? 

by Melissa Hoad of the Parent Practice

A new baby brings joy for parents, but it’s not surprising if older siblings feel jealous or resentful. Parents need to have reasonable expectations about how well siblings will get along but we can take steps to nurture harmony. 

First-born child(ren) will naturally feel displaced when a new baby arrives. They will need lots of reassurance that they are still loved, and they will need plenty of positive attention and understanding. Without this positive reassurance they are likely to ‘play up’ to get the attention they need. Rather than trying to persuade older children that the arrival of a new sibling is great news, and how much they must love the baby, allow them to express their natural feelings of resentment and jealousy. 

When parents let children know that the feelings they are experiencing are ok (even if their actions are not) it’s safe for them to tell us about them. This helps them move away from negative behaviour.

 “It’s very different for you with a new baby brother.  You are used to having me all to yourself and you may not like having to share me.”  “The way you snatched that toy from Jamie shows me you’re feeling jealous.  He has so many new things and gets so much attention. Perhaps you are feeling left out.” “Whenever you’re feeling that way you come and tell me and we’ll have a special big boy’s hug.”

It’s not unusual for children to revert to babyish behaviours when a new baby arrives. Empathise when your child who is perfectly able to walk wants to be carried. “You wish Mummy would carry you too, don’t you? I guess you’d like to be a baby again and get all the attention that Harry is getting. I think I’d like to notice the big girl things you can do and write those down so daddy can see them too.”

Positive attention
Giving your older child lots of attention for the positive things she does –
* Notice and comment on good behaviours.
“You’ve been playing so quietly with your trains for nearly 10 minutes now! What an interesting game you made – look at all the carriages lined up on that siding.” “It’s been lovely knowing you have been playing here safely and quietly while I changed Tommy upstairs. I really appreciate it.”
 * Use a visual token system to recognise these behaviours such as putting a piece of pasta in a jar for every good behaviour.
 * Talk about the things you love about her –the funny things she does or other things that make her unique.

Special time
Our first-born children need to know there are times when they will have our undivided attention. Put aside 5-10 minutes exclusively for each child to help reduce feelings of resentment towards the new baby, who takes up quite considerable parental time! Special time needs to be regular and predictable.

Plan ahead
There will inevitably be a lot of change when the newborn arrives.  Try to minimise any other changes during this period – if your toddler is about to be potty-trained, or move into a big bed, or start nursery school, plan this to happen well before the birthdate, or delay it until the dust has settled a little.
Help older children prepare for the new baby in practical ways:
* Train them to play independently or spend time with others, such as grandparents, so you have time to look after the newborn.
* Prepare them for how they might feel about the new baby and what they can do when they feel like that.
* Discuss what will need to be done for the new baby and what baby will do, and how they can help you, playing with baby and teaching him how to do things. Your baby will smile when your older child plays with him –point out how much baby loves that.
* Look at photos of them as babies, commenting on how cute but how helpless they were and how much they needed doing for them. Talk about how much he has learnt as he’s got older.

Posted on February 5, 2015 .

Our members review: Home Spa London

Home Spa London have been a partner of Match Up Mums since our launch, offering discounts on their services, and it is great to hear that so many of our members have been enjoying this rather lovely perk of your membership.

If you would like to treat yourself or your little one to some pampering, Match Up Mums members get 10% off any treatments, and anyone hosting a group baby massage class for their mum friends receives 20% discount off the course.

Three of our wonderful members have been trying out their range of mum and baby treatments.  First, our recently-matched member and mum-to-be Petra reviews Home Spa London’s pregnancy massage.  Samantha, who joined as one of our founding members and had her baby Willow in August, shares her experience of doing a baby massage course at home with her mum friends.  And finally, a treat for one of our busier members who combines a busy job with three small children: Sarah reviews the relaxing at home massage for worn-out mamas.

 
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Pregnancy massage

Reviewed by Petra, Match Up Mums member, mum-to-be and style-blogger over at Monmum.

“I don’t know about you but I often find it hard to legitimise spending money on pampering myself and am usually not one for fuss, even when I know it would do me the world of good. Cue a new little life growing inside my belly and the motherly instinct is already in full flow. Anything that will help the healthy growth of my baby and ensure she is happy in there is the least I feel I can do, so I am delighted when the lovely Jo from Home Spa London offers me a full body pregnancy massage and eagerly accept.,

As the name suggests Home Spa London means that Jo can come out to your home, although she also has a couple of bases in South London if you prefer or don’t have the space at home.

I opt for the home visit, which means I can just relax at home after the event without having to jump on a crowded tube or get stuck in traffic before I can snuggle up on the sofa or take a warm bath, elongating the pampering as much as I can (as advised by Jo).

As I wait for Jo to arrive, I make sure the heating is turned up and the kettle is on.

A wave of anxiety passes through me as I remember the fact that I didn’t really enjoy the experience of a home haircut and get the slight ‘fear’ about whether or not I will be able to relax and switch off or if I’ll get nervous and natter through the whole shebang, kicking myself afterwards for not making the most of the massage.

But as Jo arrives with her warm and friendly manner, I immediately feel at ease and nip for a last minute wee stop, leaving Jo to set up.

When I get back she is already ready to go and there is a calming waft of Lavender all around.

Jo explains how I should lay down and tells me a little about the massage balm she uses which comes from Somerset. I wonder why, but as she starts to massage it into my skin it feels smooth without being sticky or oily (it also leaves no oily residue on your clothes afterwards and sinks in nicely).

As we begin, I start to over talk and remind myself to relax and enjoy this. No sooner do I start to let myself unwind, Jo’s hands start to perform little miracles on my body and I immediately shut up.

Jo also offers sports massage and you can feel that there is power in her hands now working up and down my left hand side. Now this is what I call a massage and it’s not only me that can feel the impact. The little growing girl in my tummy is wriggling with delight too, apparently a common reaction. The only time I felt that she was calm and enjoying it in there to this level, was when we were on our baby-moon in Cornwall taking our morning swim in the Hotel pool.

This was a good decision I think to myself and one that will be highly worth repeating.

I felt absolutely great all evening and slept like a log!

Jo offers a friendly, comforting and professional service perfect for those days when your back starts giving out from the extra weight you are carrying around. A way to switch off and a massage that really feels like it’s made a difference.

Thanks Jo and see you again soon!”

 

 
baby massage class
 

Baby massage classes

Samantha found out about the baby massage classes through Match Up Mums and hosted a baby massage class with 3 other mums within her home.

Samantha says, “I would really recommend Home Spa baby massage classes. It's such a lovely activity for you & your baby. My little girl has really suffered with wind & colic like symptoms since she was about 4 weeks old, & baby massage seems to have helped alleviate some of her discomfort. It has been great learning the different strokes, some of which you might have been doing instinctively, but learning them in a sequence & understanding the benefits they bring gives you renewed confidence.

I chose to host the baby massage class at home with a few other local mums, which has been great as I think it feels more relaxing & cosy for the babies & the mums. The underfloor heating was a big hit with the babies & the coffee & biscuits a hit with the mums! I've also found it's a lot easier being at home with all the feeding & nappy changes that inevitably happens with 4 little ones.

Jo, our teacher, was excellent, so calm & very understanding of all our baby needs. Doing the course with such a small group meant it felt more like one on one tuition & we were able to run through strokes each of us may have missed while feeding or doing nappy changes. So we really made the most of all of the classes! Baby massage is now a part of our daily routine, whether during a nappy change or post bath, and has given us another opportunity to really bond with our babies.”

 

 
mum massage
 

Relaxation massage

Sarah, a Clapham mum of three small children, reviews Home Spa London’s massage service.  “Five years of carrying increasingly heavy children and more recently, lots of long days at my desk, have left me feeling a bit knotty and a lot tired.   Jo is so professional and immediately puts you at ease.  She brings with her a comfy massage bed – I’ve had awful massages at even very smart salons, due to their tiny cramped beds with my feet hanging over the edge but this one was really comfy.  She also uses solid massage oil so you don’t need to worry about the carpets getting splashed and damaged.  And after all that’s sorted Jo gets to work and… well I can’t tell you very much as thanks to Jo’s magic I switched off completely and I definitely fell asleep!  What I can tell you is that I so needed this, and afterwards felt loads less knotty and creaky.  And the best bit about having a massage in your own home is that you can get straight into your pajamas afterwards, and there’s none of that walking home in the cold with oily hair, which I always think is a horrible return to earth with a bump.  I slept like a baby (well, one that sleeps through the night) afterwards, too.  Definitely recommended.”

Jo offers massage treatments in your own home, and her Bump to Baby package includes pregnancy massage, a course of baby massage classes and a massage for exhausted new mums.  Visit HomeSpaLondon.co.uk for more information and don’t forget, Match Up Mums members get exclusive discounts off Home Spa London services – full details are in our members’ area.


Posted on January 25, 2015 .